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How to Fight Right


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  • Healthy communication
    By : Cyndi On November 22nd 2020
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    Healthy discussion, which some see as confrontation, is a valuable part of life. It was refreshing to see a healthy dialogue, not in the context of someone needing to be right, but the sharing of how to look at a situation and then open it for the give and take of adult dialogue. thank you for sharing both parts of it.

  • ask questions
    By : Ralf Meister On November 22nd 2020
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    Many arguments grow out of the situation that two sides have a differing observation point of an event, kind of like the witnesses of a car accident see different details and come to different conclusions depending on their individual observations and from which angel they got to observe the crash.
    So very often I see the other side lacking a big junk of information to see the whole picture. But just presenting the information is often met with resentment, because they don't want to be wrong.
    To get around that I try to ask questions rather than making statements and thus get the other person to consider something they have not thought about before.
    Sally did ask questions in her first response.
    And of course Arthur always broadens my horizon. Thank you.

  • How to Fight Right
    By : Andre Roos On November 22nd 2020
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    You REALLY ADD VALUE by opening it up like this... I would sometimes respond wrongly BECAUSE of MY VERY DEEPLY INGRAINED presuppositions ...
    I plan to change!!!!

  • How to fight right
    By : Anita On November 21st 2020
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    Thank you Arthur for this strategy of developing perspective by asking questions we don’t understand. Sallies question made sense and your biblical view is informing us and clarifying a seem to be a contradiction. I learn so much from you.
    God bless you and your family from SA

  • How to Fight Right - Reaction to the Interaction
    By : LilaJean On November 21st 2020
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    Thanks for the clarification, Arthur.

  • How to Fight Right
    By : Twila Crawford On November 21st 2020
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    This is awesome! Fighting right is more important than just being right. One leaves room for discussion and growth, leaving room for dignity of each as a person. “Being right” creates a breeding ground for offense and someone being left in the dust. Nobody wins. Thank you to both of you for a simple and clear example of how to do this well. Growing myself. Learned a better approach today on asking questions when I may disagree and how to respond when disagreed with. I am choosing to grow in both. Blessings.

  • This blog
    By : Frieda On November 21st 2020
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    No comment....just a thank you for your investing, using every situation to teach us something
    Thank you
    Frieda

  • How to fight right
    By : Sandy Wubbeling On November 20th 2020
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    Thank you Arthur this is truly a life skill. Coming from a broken home with a lot of fighting this was not modeled. I need to ask Father God how I can remove the damaged model that has become part of me/ default setting. I realized the principle you reap what you sew. I need to stop the sewing.

  • Role of repentence?
    By : Renée On November 21st 2020
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    Thank you for your gracious exchanges with others and how it indeed opens our perspective.
    I have been off facebook since early February, so have missed much of what you have shared. Perhaps you have already spoken on this.
    As I read your comments, I am wondering about the role of repentance in all this, and this meaning the repentance of believers, or the church as a whole, a true godly sorrow, not just an action. I am reading Jeremiah, and in chapter 7 God has Jeremiah proclaim that they should not pray for the people nor plead with Him. Interesting statement. Throughout the book there is a continual call for them to return to Him, to repent, and then He speaks of the future blessings. This is of course a message to Judah and Israel and reflects Deuteronomy 30. Yet, are there not some principles given for us as believers today?
    Where are we as noble subjects in the midst of this pandemic regarding being truly right before the Lord? As you mentioned, we were not ready. Is this not key to our being able to regain ground and pray and fight for those suffering today? Should we not be searching our hearts with Holy Spirit continually so He can continuing His perfecting work, and we can do those good works He has prepared in advance for us to do in these days? What is that godly sorrow really? I’m journeying through all this as He leads me through a big transition. I guess I just want to be ready moving forward.
    If there are any of your teachings or articles you can point me to, that would be beneficial. I thank you in advance, and again thank you for your testimony and ministry.

    Replied by : Arthur Burk Renee, I spent a long time on the subject of repentance in the album "An Epic Season" which is totally about COVID-19. Check it out.

  • Kudos
    By : Gordon Haggerty On November 21st 2020
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    Kudos to Sally for engaging with a good question, and double kudos to Arthur for not only answering the question well, but opening up the tool box for all of us to look into and learn from.
    Most of us have only learned to fight to win, leaving a path of destruction behind us. But very few of us have learned to fight to build, leaving things (and people) better off for it. I remember being challenged by earlier teachings about learning to fight productively. Also, about developing a reconciliation model, with mindful intentionality for a redemptive outcome. I have failed often in trying to implement those tools, but I also think I have (mostly) failed forward.
    Thank you both.

  • Exploring
    By : Sandy On November 20th 2020
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    Great dissection of a conversation.
    The communication skills you exhibit, are ones we all should have learned by middle school.
    How sad, that most of us have much narrower thought processes.
    Questions and discussion should never be seen as a personal attack, but rather a great opportunity to stretch our minds and imagination.
    Not unlike a friendly sparring session.

  • How to Fight Right
    By : Mary Barlow On November 20th 2020
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    Thanks for posting this exchange! I love the teaching opportunity. We can all grow in this area of fighting fair, at least I sure can.........
    Beautifully done,
    Polly

  • Mahalo for sharing!
    By : Keiger Bowman On November 20th 2020
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    I hope to apply this in all aspects of my own life at work, in church community and at large. I stay off deep discussions, even shallow discussions on social media for the reasons you pointed out.
    I also thought a great title could be; “Simple Ways to Destroy a Reality Show’s Popularity.”

  • How to fight right
    By : Diane Venora On November 20th 2020
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    Thank you for publishing the email and your response. It was a refreshing exchange. Thanks for modeling it. Sound reasoning and biblical truth.
    Diane

    Replied by : Arthur Burk Hey Friend, Great to hear from you again. I still remember the great fun we had at the last seminar in Anaheim.

  • Refreshing
    By : Connie On November 20th 2020
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    I enjoyed reading someone's comments that could explore in a healthy way and your response Arthur. Both of you walked in humility in the exchange and it was filled with beauty and virtue.